About 3 days ago I sat and watched a PBS program on someone I would never even consider being interested in...John Wooden. Sports just ain't my thing...I'm more inclined to listen to Oprah then someone who coached collegiate basketball and I still, after watching the show, have no idea really what John did in his life and I have no clue how important the awards were that he earned, but I do know that I had a tremendous breakthrough listening to this man.
John defined success. He defined it in 1934 and it remained the cornerstone of his coaching, his life, his program...it defined him as well as all of the men who looked up to him for guidance in his years of coaching. John's definition of success was coined as "Success is peace of mind, which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you made the effort to do your best to become the best that you are capable of becoming."
Wow....when I heard him say tears swelled in my eyes and I sat there, remote in hand, kids running circles under me nodding my head in agreement. It was one of those moments that the world snaps into place and suddenly you have clarity. I have been chasing and looking for some purpose for so long and yet I was capable of success all a long right where I am. I was looking for monetary and social stroking, accolades, important friends to define success. I felt this life (being a stay at home) was fine for now there were elements I liked but all in all I wasn't very good at it and so when I started working again then THAT would be when my success came, THAT was when I would find my passion and define myself. What a waste! I have the opportunity for success each and every day!
For the past three days when I laid my head down at night I asked myself 1 question, Are you proud of who you were today? Yes! Because I knew that question was coming at night so during the day when I was impatient with the kids I sucked it up and found ways to be patient. I engaged, I created the ideal of what I thought was a good mom/wife/friend/Homekeeper/daughter. All the different roles I played over the course of the weekend, I asked myself, Am I giving my all? Am I doing my best? The result...satisfaction at the end of the night. Joyfulness which comes with peace of mind-success.
John Wooden may have completely changed my life in one simple statement.